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Proposed Manifesto for Indian Parents (for gender equality)

Posted: Thu, February 06, 2014 | By: Pubali Ray Chaudhuri

Challenge to Indian Parents: Do we dare take this vow, or a vow that contains similar tenets? If not, please let us accept that we are misogynists and wish proudly to remain so.

1. I will raise my sons to be feminists, to respect women as equal human beings in every way, shape and form. I will raise my daughters to believe that they are precious, cherished blessings, and I am as lucky to have them as I would be to have a son. I will reinforce equality in thought, word and deed.

2. I will treat my son and my daughter equally in every way, and I will recognize as social the limitations placed upon women, and not directly or indirectly tell my daughter that they are her fault because she is female. 

3. I will refuse to pay or receive dowry.

4. I will provide my daughter EXACTLY the same educational opportunities as I do my son. I will ensure that my daughter becomes financially independent, a woman able to take care of herself.5. I will spend not one penny more on my daughter’s marriage than on my son’s.

6. I vow not to continue breeding till I have a son, but to be satisfied with one or at the most two children of whatever sex.

7. I will not expect that after marriage my daughter will leave my home to stay at her in-laws or that my son’s wife will come to stay with me as a matter of course.

8. I will make no distinction between my son and my daughter when it comes to the inheritance of my property.

9. I will treat my son’s children and my daughter’s children with equal respect and affection.

10. At my funeral, my daughter and my son will have exactly the same responsibility for my obsequies.

This essay was first published in Intrepid Report, HERE



A valid manifesto for gender equity. It is time for all nations that discriminate girls from boys to accept and act on it. Continual indifference and procrastination must give way to genuine action.  (vzc1943)

By venze on Feb 06, 2013 at 4:20pm

i didn’t understand the 7th one. what’s wrong in staying with in-laws as long as they’re as loving and caring as own parents?

By babumoshai on Aug 02, 2013 at 2:24pm

@Babumoshai: I hope you are open to staying with your in-laws. If not, you probably don’t get that the article is focused at ‘equality’.

Indian men have a tough time snapping their umbilical cords. While it is good to love your own parents, it is equally important to build your own nest.

Boys’ parents are endowed with a perfect set of hands, feet and brains and don’t need to be spoon - fed.  While the parents play a very vital role in a child’s birth and upbringing, they have had absolutely no role to play in their kid’s partner’s life. It isn’t easy moulding your life for anyone else. When the need arises, parents on both sides should be looked after. Certainly not the boys’ parents alone. They have clearly not contributed to the daughter - in - law’s life in any way.

If you are suggesting living in a community set up with both sets of family under one roof, it certainly is easier said than done. It’s best to live independently and look after parents on both sides equally.

By Surbhi on Jun 23, 2014 at 12:13pm

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